I'm going to share something that will probably seem weird, *but I don't care if you think so.
I'll explain my why and why I'm confessing because it ties into a buzz that's running around Etsy.
I downloaded the first couple lines of Keith Urban's "Good Morning, Beautiful Day" and set it as my morning alarm.
Every morning at 8 am, I am awakened by a sexy southern voice calling me beautiful.
*well except for the time when my 3 y/o hid my phone and my 22 y/o son woke up to it and brought it to me with that "really, Mom?" look.*
My reason is simple.
When I hear the lyrics while I'm in that space between sleep and awake; It shifts me to a place where I feel beautiful, loved, cherished, valued. It shifts me to a magical place.
It makes for an amazing way to start my day.
Good Morning, Beautiful, how was your night? Mine was wonderful with you by my side. And when I open my eyes and see your sweet face It's a Good Morning Beautiful Day.
Anything that can help you shift into a higher vibration is magical.
It could be music, poetry, scent (perfume,essential oil) crystals (tumbled, raw or in jewelry) plants, herbs, items charged with energy (such as Reiki or love and light) and so on and so forth....
The trick with magic is in the Art of Allowing.
You have to want to shift. Way deep down, you have to want to feel that energy and allow yourself to shift.
And that is where it gets confusing and sometimes it seems backwards.
Let's say, you're lonely, broken-hearted and really really want to be in a relationship.
So you light a pink, rose scented candle, carry some rose quartz and start looking but every where you look you see two things: Adorable couples in total- sickening sweet head over heels-love and losers that you don't want to get stuck with.
You start to feel discouraged and the doubts start floating around and maybe your Inner Mean Girl/Guy is spewing nastiness in your head.
So you think that it's not working and you give up.
Unfortunately it was working and you quit too soon.
As you start resonating with energy of those items, two things happen that are often at odds with each other.
First you start attracting that which you want - you see the couples in love. It's an opportunity to confirm "Yes, I want that" but in the beginning will trigger envy or jealousy or bitterness because you're still not quite there which then attracts the loser that you don't want.
Which comes to the second thing - by moving up to the higher vibrational states/happier emotions - you shake things loose. You start to untangle those old ideas and beliefs that kept you from experiencing that special relationship that you long for.
The down side is that if you ever want to achieve that, you have to feel all the yucky emotions that come up.
You don't have to wallow in them.
You don't have to hang on to them or define yourself by them.
In fact, I'll encourage you NOT to.
Just feel it and let it go. Have a quick cry, go for a run, tell your Inner Mean Girl/Guy to shut up and have faith in the process.
This is the hard part of Magic
Everyone is different, with different blocks and different belief systems and different wounds and past experiences and Inner critics.
How long it takes you to clear out all the old crap and change your vibration is going to be different that my time table, or your sisters, or your neighbors....don't compare yourself to anyone.
It also helps to have a very clear idea of what you want in a relationship and how you want to feel.
When you do and you're ready to clear out those pesky emotional blocks that keep you from living the life of your dreams, then by all means, use whatever tool is available to you.
Some of those spell ingredients like plant material, essential oils and crystals all have their own vibrational energy.
This is one of those things that is under debate by the scientific communities. The benefits are questionable because they haven't been able to get quantitative proof.
They can't, won't or haven't taken the time to prove it that plants and crystals have vibrational energy
Some of the spell components, like colors, candles, and other objects work on your subconscious.
They work directly on your brain through symbolism which help to alter you belief system. For example, every time you light that pink candle, you are essentially telling yourself that you want and deserve love.
Eventually the deeper, darker, wounded parts of you will begin to believe that and you shift, open up, allow.
This is yet another very subjective subject that can't be proven.
Magic is not and has never been an instant cure, a quick fix.
It takes time and faith and doesn't always work out the way you think it should.
With that being said....The whole metaphysical community is in a buzz because Etsy is beginning to enforce its rules and regulations.
Any metaphysical service that promises or suggests it will effect a physical change (e.g., weight loss) or other outcome (e.g., love, revenge) is not allowed, even if it delivers a tangible item.
There's a fine line between stating the historically documented properties of an herb or crystal and suggesting a claim that can't be proven and isn't backed by the FDA
(because Etsy does have to answer to the government and it's shareholders)